Standing Head Shot

I am Calvin Guyer – The Carpe Diem Coach – and welcome to my blog! Thank you for taking time out of your busy day to visit me. Read on and we can learn together about leading ourselves, leading others, and making influential change to the organizations that we serve.

I am a recovering engineer! Maybe that is a little harsh but there is some truth in that statement. I pushed myself through a BS and MS in electrical engineering. That educational path led me to believe that everything (maybe not everything but a lot of things) could be explained, or at least approximated, with a concrete set of equations. Life has taught me a much different set of lessons.

I have had the awesome opportunity to grow up all over the world. My dad served a 20 year career in the Air Force and I served for 15. I’ve lived on two islands – Guam and Okinawa – traveled to nearly all 50 states (still have to make it to the far Northeast), lived in many states (Minnesota, Michigan’s Upper Peninsula (seriously, there is a distinction!), Georgia, Ohio, Nebraska, Iowa, Missouri, Texas, and North Dakota), and I did a tour of duty in the Republic of South Korea for just over a year. I thought I would lead a nomadic lifestyle forever. Then I met my wife, Jean. She was born and raised in Minnesota (west central farm country) and is the penultimate of 13 children. That is when my life changed. Family took on a whole new meaning. Integrating work and life (notice I didn’t say balance – more on that in my blogging) was the top priority.

I have dropped (flunked might be a better word) out of college – and I have graduated from two major universities. I have taken senior leadership positions in organizations and I have been fired from a job (more about that in my blogging, too). I’ve built grain bins and pole barns, worked in factories making things like plastic pipe, windows, and mufflers, and spent many of my undergraduate college years working in food service. I started a business – only to see it flounder – then landed a few opportunities that are making what I do today possible. It’s all part of the leadership journey.

After leaving active military service I used my analytical, and burgeoning people skills, to provide financial planning advice to families. What I learned from that experience is that I really like to help people. It wasn’t so much about the investments or insurance products – it was about the sense of well-being that clients would get when you could look them in the eye and tell them that everything was going to be OK!

Who can my blog help

I believe that I can help you. Leadership isn’t about a title. It’s about having a positive influence on yourself and others to accomplish things that, under normal circumstances, are beyond your reach.  There are no silver bullets on this site. No single aha moments. No secret sauce. Just hard work and perseverance. Over time, like an oak tree, you will develop strong roots and branch out in ways that you never thought possible. Join me on that journey.

What do I blog about

Leadership – plain and simple. Emotional intelligence, and the role it plays in your life and your organization, is a significant theme in my writing and my coaching. I speak from experience on this topic.

Why write a blog

It’s like a journal of sorts. Writing things down – like a goal – summons a universal force that pulls, and pushes, us in a direction to attain the goal. The path isn’t straight and it is fraught with obstacles. Writing, and the research that I need to do to write valuable posts, is part of my leadership journey.

I would like to connect with you

  • Blog comments: Let me know what you think. How has a particular topic influenced your life? How have you implemented the idea? I will respond – and possibly find a new blog topic that will help others.
  • Email: Shoot me an email and let’s have a conversation.
  • Social media: Facebook (The Carpe Diem Coach), LinkedIn (CalGuyer), and Twitter (@CalGuyer60) are where you will find me most.

I like assessments

They help me to see and understand my gaps. DISC, Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Herrmann Brain Dominance Instrument, Strength Finders, Emotional Intelligence (EQ-i 2.0) and 360 Degree Feedback have all helped me to better understand my characteristics and behaviors. And through those assessments I am able to better pinpoint areas for improvement or areas where I can leverage a strength.

Strength Finders

My strengths are:

  • Learner
  • Analytical (comes through as part of my recovery program)
  • Harmony
  • Responsibility
  • Belief


I am mostly “I” and “C.” The “I” says that I like people and the “C” says that I have a tendency to look for and follow the rules (again, I refer you to my recovering engineer comment).

Herrmann Brain Dominance Indicator

I’m analytical (rational/intellectual). Nothing more to say on this area. I’m really trying.

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

ENTJ – Extroversion – Intuitive – Thinking – Judging

Emotional Intelligence: EQ-i 2.0

It’s complicated. More on this topic in my blog.